The ONE surprising thing that will help you reduce stress, anxiety and live a happier, healthier life
Aug 13, 2019
I was the type of person who had a constant reel of thoughts running through my mind all of the time, but even if you're already a little more chill than I was, this is going to still be so huge for you so, keep reading.
I was talking to my friend and coach, Lacey and she has a unique gift of seeing things in people - both productive things, and not so productive things. She also has a way of kindly showing you some things that you may be doing that don't really serve you as it relates to you achieving a goal and becoming the person you were made to become.
So, when she suggested this to me, I knew - because it was her - that it was something that would definitely get me unstuck from where I was, but I was still skeptical.
It didn't sound like it would be "enough" to actually work. It sounded too easy to get me unstuck and from feeling anxious and stressed to feeling free and productive. So, after I tell you what it is, if you feel that same way, I totally get it, but let me be the first to tell you - IT ACTUALLY IS ENOUGH!
Our brains are these fascinatingly complex and yet very simple things. They're like supercomputers. But most of us haven't been taught how to program them in order to get the results we want in life. And most of us, unless you grew up or live in a bubble, have picked up a few viruses. So, our brains are just kind of running wild - resulting in an internal state of chaos. And that manifests in so many different ways for different people, stress, anxiety, depression, anger, apathy, being scattered, etc.
If you struggle with any of these things, here's what you can start doing right now, to start reprogramming your brain and take back control of your life. Then you can start moving it in whatever direction you'd like!
Daily Journaling. Like with an actual pen and paper.
When we write, we do 3 really important things:
- Separate ourselves from who we are and what we think. When we put our thoughts on paper and actually see them, we create space to process what's really going on in our heads and hearts. And sometimes when we actually see that thought, we realize that it's often not true, or not nearly as scary as we thought.
- Clarify our thinking. When we write something down, we force ourselves to form logical sentences. Ever heard something and then tried to teach or explain it to someone else and it made no sense? It's because you didn't 'really' know it and you didn't have full clarity on it. When everything is inside our heads, it gets lost in the clutter and it's easy to feel scattered. However, when you see things on a page, you can start to see how things fit together - and separate the truth from the lies.
- We start to think differently. We start to ask ourselves better questions. And when we do that, we get better results. We get new ideas and epiphanies. We get to know ourselves more as we start to see our brains on paper. When we can see our thoughts outside of our minds, all it takes is a little bit of tweaking to create big and lasting change.
Get started by grabbing a journal and a good pen. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just something that you will use. I just get small blank notebooks at Target. Here's my favorite journaling pen.
Here are 10 prompts to get you started:
- What are you best at, what do you love doing most, and how could you enjoy more time doing both?
- If you were unapologetically and truly yourself, what would you change for you moving forward?
- How do you want to feel today and what things, that are in your control, are you going to do to make that happen?
- What are you MOST grateful for today? (pick something new each morning.) This one is REALLY important.
- What scares you the most and why? Is that really true? If so, what can you do overcome that fear?
- What would you tell your 5-year old self?
- Who do you need to forgive and why, and what's stopping you from doing it?
- What's the best advice you've ever been given?
- Where do you want to see yourself in 3 months, 6 months and a year? Be specific.
- When you're at your best, how do you feel, what does that look like? How do you get back there if you're feeling unbalanced or out of whack?
Not everything has to be about you, obviously, but these are some great things to get your mind moving.
- Don't limit yourself. Just write! Your stream of consciousness will take over and you may be surprised at what comes out!
- Do this in the morning BEFORE anything else. Don't check social media and get up an hour earlier if you need to to get it in!
- Commit to 15 minutes each day. You can add more as you build consistency in your new habit.
- Don't allow it to become a passive habit. Meaning, if you journal something that you can act on, do it!
- Don't allow yourself to wallow in negative emotions. Expressing them is good, wallowing in them is not.
- Don't stop if you miss a day or two. Just get right back to it, and journal about it.
This is just the tip of the iceberg with journaling - it has so many proven health benefits that I'll dive into in the coming weeks, but for now -
Grab a journal, your favorite pen, set your alarm in the morning, and get to writing!
And shoot me a DM on IG or tag me in your morning journal sessions! I love hearing how it's improving your life and helping you see the amazing woman that you are!